1-2-3-Meet Process

New Matches are members who have been identified as complementary matches for you by our system based on your Chemistry Profile. We give you up to five new matches everyday so that you can take the time to review every profile and really see if you would like to start communicating or not. These matches can include anyone that has joined Chemistry, non-paying members as well as subscribers.

In order to see additional new matches, you must first move your matches to either Active Matches or to your Archives. If you indicate that you are interested in a new match, the system will move that member to Active Matches. If you are not interested, that member will be moved to your Archives and made inactive.

In order to move a member out of your New Matches list, review the profile of each potential match and let us know your level of interest. Depending on how interested you are, profiles will then be moved to Active Matches where you can begin the four-stage guided communication process or relocated to your Archives.

You can only have five new matches at any time and will not receive any additional new matches until you have reviewed and indicated your level of interest for the profiles currently there.

Interested In You includes members who have reviewed your profile and indicated a high level of interest in getting to know you.

You should review their profile and let us know if you are interested in moving forward. Based on your level of interest, the profile will be either moved to your Active Matches where you can begin the four-stage communication process or moved to your Archives.

Active Matches includes those members you are actively getting to know through the four-stage communication process.

At a glance, you are able to see where you are in the process with each match, whether you're waiting for a response to your questions or if it's your turn to respond.

"Nudge" allows you to send a reminder to matches that have not responded to your most recent communication. You can send one nudge per stage to a match. The feature is available during the Interested in You, Relationship Essentials and Short Answer stages of the communication process and is a subscriber only feature.

To send a nudge, click the "Nudge" button. An email will be sent to your match reminding them that you are still interested in continuing the Guided Communication process and are waiting for their response. A nudge message will also appear next to your name on their Active Matches or Interested in You page.

The "Nudge" feature is available after 48 hours have passed without a response from your match.

The Relationship Essentials communication step is intended to help you communicate with your matches about what is most important - and not important – to you in a relationship.

As you start the Relationship Essentials stage with each of your matches you have the opportunity to rank different criteria that often come up during relationships, such as neatness, feelings on family life, sense of humor and pets. After you rank each item and your match ranks them, you will be able to review each others answers and see if you feel there is enough compatibility to move on to the next stage in our process, Short Answers.

After you have completed the Relationship Essentials stage once, you have the option of re-using the Relationship Essentials you selected previously or you can change your rankings to your ever changing life. It's up to you.

Once you have selected and sent your Relationship Essentials you cannot go back and change your selections. Changes can be made only when you first enter the Relationship Essentials step with a new match.

Step two of the guided communication process is Short Answers, where you select two questions to ask your match that they then answer.

This is your chance to ask your match about their proudest moments, their greatest regrets, lessons they have learned from previous relationships, or anything else you're interested in knowing. Select from our list of pre-written questions, write your own, or do one of each.

At the same time you are selecting your two questions, your match will select two questions for you to answer. Once you and your match have answered the questions you sent each other, you will both be able to review the other person’s answers.

In order to get the most honest answers, neither you nor your match will see each other’s responses until you have both answered the questions sent.

Once you've had a chance to get to know your match through the first two guided communications steps, it is time to move to step three, Email.

Chemistry email is completely secure. All email is exchanged through our site, not sent directly to your email address, so your personal information is protected. To see your new messages or send an email, click the Email tab. You can also send messages directly from your Active Matches tab.

Please note: You can send email ONLY to those matches with whom you have completed the first two guided communication steps.

The First-Meeting™, or in-person meeting, is designed to be a way for you to get face-to-face and gauge the level of chemistry between you and your match.

When - and if - you're ready to meet in person, our patent-pending process will help you find a mutually convenient time and place for your First-Meeting™. We also provide you with follow-up tools for after your First-Meeting™ so that you can give - and receive - feedback on your date.